Ironic

It’s ironic, a lot of my friends have suggested I write a book/ blog – under an assumed name regarding various aspects of my life including my dating experiences.

Obviously, I have been doing this but I have only told a couple of my friends, as I would not want people to have a bad impression of me.

For instance one of my sisters asked me why I have gone on dates with a variety of guys.  I had to clarify with her that when I’ve gone on dates it has purely been about meeting up , possibly for food, drink or some other activity, with the date ending ending with a kiss on the cheek at best. She didn’t seem to understand, so it got me thinking if I was to state each time I dated to my friends and family, they might become concerned.

Consequently, I have decided to maintain this blogging malarkey.  The only problem now is that  I need to maintain my unpadtes as there is a lot of dating material to get through.

Please let me know if you want me to continue.

Music Sounds Better Than You

Once again, a lot has happened  since my last post, as well as since January.

I hope I will be able to tell you all about my shenanigans, but I will obviously start from where my last post ended.

I started seeing Music Man in October.  As per usual it just happened, as I had known him for years after falling in lust at first sight with him and one of his friends over 10 years ago, when they were performing poetry at a university event.

In fact, it had kind of been a long standing joke that Music Man liked me, and that he would one day get a piece of the action.  However, nothing had come off this attraction as either one of us had always been unattainable.

So what changed? He asked me to come to watch him perform as he was now the lead singer of a band.  Seeing him on stage was amazing as he really owned it. I had gone to watch him with one of my friends, but I allowed them to leave me, as I hoped I would get dealt with that night.

Anyway to cut to the chase our friendship turned into something else that night and it was amazing.  In fact it felt completely right as our bodies seemed to be completely in synch.  Furthermore, we could talk for hours and he seemed to understand where I was at.

The following weeks were a haze as we continued to spend time together.  Meeting in 4* hotels in Paddington, Euston and Kings Cross and making trips to my flat out of London. Each time we met was just as amazing, so it may come as a surprise to know that we aren’t together anymore considering how perfect it seemed.

Music Man had some flaws, in fact the charismatic blase attitude that I had fallen for was also the thing that I knew would wind me up in the long run.

Facebook and Dating…How not to turn into a bunny boiler

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Since becoming single I have become a Facebook addict, becoming a dab hand at using applications.  This is the reason why I thought I would talk about Facebook on this forum.

It dawned on me this weekend that I had been dating someone who I had indicated was attractive on the Sparkey/ Chainn app when his picture popped up, earlier this year.  Obviously as I have lots of things going on it didn’t dawn on me that the guy I had anonymously said yes to ‘Would date’ was actually sitting next to me when I first met him in the flesh.

In fact it was Pretty Man and as I have indicated previously the guy looks so delicious I could eat him.  Since we started hanging out,  we became friends on Facebook and its tempting to check his profile to see if there are any flirtations on his wall.  Especially as he is still not my man and I may seek to justify why his interest in me does not seem as keen as it was when we first met.

The main thing that stops me however is that any reader of my blog will know that Pretty Man is not the only guy I have been seeing so if he is anything like me, any flirtations with potential relationship contenders would not be taking place on the public wall.  This is not only because:

1. it is visible to all visitors to my page, and
2. potentially sent to all my friends in the news feeds.

Real flirtations for me take place via facebook chat/ MSN or offline on the ancient contraption called the phone. With the phone and IM you can see if someone has instant wit and charm, as well as whether they understand me.

As I have got this sense of perspective I hope I won’t turn into a bunny boler for Pretty Man or anyone else that I may meet…via Facebook or in the real world.

Here I Am

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Apologies for the delay in getting back to this. My life has been pretty hectic. I’ve been on holiday, found a new job and had a couple of car accidents but as Rick Ross would say “here I am”.

My week on the other side of the pond in Hotlanta was a real eye opener to say the least. The stats were startling, the female to male ratio is allegedly 4:1 which means that it is seriously a Dog Eat Dog world. From what I could gather men seemed to expect women to do the chasing which is still quite alien to me.

This is not to say that I was not approached, but the manner in which this was done was completely different to London. This could be down to good old Southern Hospitality. Another thing I found interesting was that on telling a guy that you’re not interested they backed off without taking offence.

Alongside meeting a new set of people who were on the whole very progressive, the time away gave me time to reflect on my life back home. Whilst in a relationship I had moved out to a commuter town not too far from London in some respects, whilst in other ways it might as well have been another time zone. Atlanta showed me that there really is life outside the M25 and has also opened me up to the possibility of relocating to another major city.

Any way we’ll see what happens

Be Happy

As the Queen of Hip Hop/ R& B famously sung:

All I really want
is to be happy
And to find a love that’s mine
It would be so sweet

The reason why this springs to mind is that since I reentered the singles market I have kept myself really busy by having several dates a week with several people. On the whole they have been fun as I may, or may not be, as is often the case close to the centre of attention. However, when I have to spend any length of time by myself I start to panic and realise that I’m not completely happy with the current hand that life has dealt me.

Will my dating result in finding that Special Someone who’s all mine or will I have to settle for second best.

The Original FB is still around. Our relationship is still pretty much based on our Wednesday night visit, except I didn’t see him this week, but should be seeing him tonight…if I go out raving. He still has commitment issues which is cool with me at the moment but then I also have my needy moments and would like to know that I don’t have to wait a whole week to see him.

Pretty Man is still on the scene. I do really like him but I have handled the situation all wrong as I for want of a phrase “freed up” too soon. I couldn’t help it as I fancy the pants off him and I was overcome by the moment. This was done without having a conversation to establish what we both wanted, but as per usual it seems that it will never get beyond the booty call. I am still trying to go out on our first date.

I have also been on a date with a guy I will call Toy Boy.  Will see how that progresses.  Can’t be any worse than Peter who has claimed that he misses me… or my skills.

I will finish as I started, all I really want is to be happy.