When Mr Right is so so so not The One

I went on a date last night with a guy who on paper is absolutely perfect and he appears to worship the ground I walk on.  You might ask what’s the problem then.

Well for me the biggest obstacle to anything substantial occurring between us is that I don’t fancy him.  I used to.  Kind of many many years ago, but unlike other guys I have dated he really does absolutely nothing for me. There is nothng wrong with him- he is not ugly, he’s about the right height, etc but I feel absolutely nothing when I see him.  Nothing that is apart from the fact he irritates the hell out of me.  Not in a “I want to kill you kind of way” but rather the fact he’s so nice and a bit boring.

One of my best friends has tried to analyse what is wrong with me.  For the purpose of this I will refer to him as Mr A.  Mr A is the kind of guy that would get a lot of attention if he had an advert on match.com or any other dating site/ page.  He has a great job, is solvent and well educated.  My mum and friends like him.  I can’t ever imagine him mistreating me.  However, as my best friend’s boyfriend said on listening to my woes  he imagines I would end up messing about on Mr A.  Would I, probably as I couldn’t make any promises as there are other guys I

Is it wrong to want more than the criteria listed

The waiting game

I’ve been seeing this guy for a while…well four weeks or so, and unlike previous “relationships” I have decided to take it slowly. This is a alien concept for me as I am not one of those girls who never does it on a first date. But it is proving quite successful in actually determining how much he likes me.

He seems like a nice guy not sure if he is remotely Mr Right as he does not tick a lot of my boxes, e.g being a father. I am also trying to ascertain the truth from the bullshit. As I am trying to hear what he is not saying as well as what he is. I’m not ready to get into something too deep so soon after breaking up with the One as he broke my trust in a fundamental way but I am trying to make sure that this is not carried into anything new.

Well last night, or maybe this morning I decided to give him a little treat so that interest from his side could be maintained. Let’s just say that he was pleasantly surprised by my actions as I have the look of butter not melting in my mouth. Well it didn’t at first but eventually he was unable to contain himself. I’ve never had any complaints, in fact I would go as far as to say that oral is my specialist subject whether I am receiving or giving.

Let’s just say I am sure he’ll be coming back for seconds or maybe thirds. The question is will he be able to satisfy me in the same way?

An update on this post. He called me and it turns out that he doesn’t go down like that. WTF. I will get him to change his mind though as that’s not fair.

Why am I doing this?

I have been thinking about writing about my sexploitations for a while, as my friends have been regaled with my tales about my dating experiences for the longest time. In addition, I am now single after being in a relationship for seven years that ended after discovering that he was not who I thought he was.

Finally, I have just turned 30 and have been reflecting on past actions as well as looking forward to what the future might hold.

Some may wonder why this title, well in my dating life it seems that wherever I meet a guy it turns out that he knows at least one other guy that knows me in the “biblical” sense.

Hello world!

Here’s a bit about me…

Akua1978 is my moniker as when I get more confident I may reveal a lot more about myself. I’ve just come out of a seven year relationship and am reentering the dating game. Hopefully this blog will serve as a journal of the game. Will I be able to differentiate between the players and the serious ones .

For obvious reasons I won’t use their real names as I may get myself into trouble. In addition to my current dating highs and lows, I may also regale you with tales of dating from back in the day